5 top tips for a successful year
January 1st, time to throw out the old, bring in the new and we can start by getting rid of the hangover. Time to put on your new running shoes and jog down to the gym…hmm, maybe after one more coffee.
Well, perhaps I can help with some of your resolutions. What were they, earn more money? Get on better with people? Get that promotion? Build a bigger business? Buy that house at a knock-down price?
Whatever they are, I’m sure improved negotiation skills will help because the raw fact is that negotiation is at the heart of everything we do. If it involves other people, and pretty much everything does, it involves negotiation.
So here are 5 top tips for improving your negotiation skills this year and making sure your New Year’s Resolutions become fact.
1. Negotiate on everything
Make 2012 the year of negotiating on everything. Try to get a 10% discount off your bus fare, try to get two pairs of socks for the price of one, try to get a complimentary digestif from the waiter. Be cheeky and just ask. Don’t ask, don’t get. You will be surprised by the results.
2. Ask for more
This year, set it as a practice to always ask for more than you would normally.
You never know, you may just get it. When Thomas Edison sold his first invention, a stock ticker, to the Gold & Stock Telegraph Company in 1869, he was hoping to get $5,000 but would have settled for $3,000. As it turned out, they offered $40,000.
Of course, your request does have to be plausible but that just requires creative justification. And even if you ask and don’t get, they are more likely to give you something, something more than if you hadn’t asked at all.
3. Give more
Negotiating on everything does not mean being an annoying, stingy, tight-fisted so-and-so that everyone tries to avoid.
Quite the opposite, the other party will only do you these favours because they want to: because there is something in it for them, because you have helped them out in the first place, because you have made their day with your compliments, because they saw you help that old lady across the road.
(Short note: helping old ladies across the road against their will doesn’t count).
Give more and you will get more in return.
4. Be creative
Negotiation is a highly creative process. Successful negotiations come from creating value for both parties. People will give you more if you find a way that doesn’t cost them to do so; they will give you even more if you find a way that gives them benefit too.
And this isn’t always easy to work out how. It requires thinking beyond the normal constraints. Don’t accept the obvious, think “what if…”. Be creative.
5. Enjoy the negotiation
The last one is a bonus: enjoy it. Don’t take your negotiations so seriously. If you take them lightly, see the fun in them, see the challenge, you will find yourself negotiating more and you will soon get so much better.
So its up to you. 5 top tips that can transform the results you get in your negotiations and your life. If you like, you can treat them like so many other resolutions: read ‘em and dump ‘em.
Or, alternatively, you could just put them into action and get a lot of great results in your life.
Have a really great 2012.
2 Comments
“For changes to become of any true value, they’ve got to be lasting and consistent.” – Tony Robbins
I’m pleased to have dcroivesed your blog via discussions in the LES LinkedIn Group. I too am involved in maximising university-industry-government research relationships in my work as an IP lawyer based in Vancouver. I enjoyed your comments on powerful ways to shape perception when negotiating research deals. Thanks very much.